Ginger Tea

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Life is filled with small pleasures and locating a new one is a special experience. Ginger is a health promoting herb, it has many benefits including high levels of vitamin C, appetite reduction, prevention of alzheimer’s disease, and improved circulation.

What makes ginger different than other supplements I’ve tried is that the appetite reduction and improved circulation is noticable, and the tea delivers an internal heat upon consumption. I’ve been consuming the tea over the last month, and my stomach feels better, I’m more alert, and I feel much better..this might be borderline too much information, but my bowel movements have been excellent.

When prepared in a tea with honey, it’s also one of the most delicious things things in this world. Try this if you’re interested in the benefits or if you enjoy tea.

500 Followers

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Wow! Thank you for your interest, it’s amazing that this many people find my writing interesting. Blogging at WordPress has connected me to a lot of new people and interesting ideas, and it’s been good to meet you all. It’s been nearly year since I’ve started and it’s been an interesting ride.

As this blog gets close to its one year anniversary and becomes a little more established, I’ve decided to work more on the quality of my writing and raise my ambition level a bit, but I’m also getting a bit intimidated as well. I’m considering pursuing poetry and fiction more here, I feel like I’ve bled out as much as my history as I need to, at the moment.

Because of this,  I’ve been reading up on blogging techniques, everything from grammar to branding to monetizing. One of the consistent things I read about is the importance of picking a general theme, which is difficult for me. This blog is definitely more of a magpie’s nest of things that attracted my attention than something specific.

I enjoyed reading Jon Milligan’s “The 15 Success Traits of Pro Bloggers: A Proven Roadmap to Becoming a Full-Time Blogger“, but that’s meant for someone who’s blogging on a specific topic and wants to make money from blogging. There are definitely a lot of good tips on mindset, technique, and the importance of guest-blogging and building community ties. The latter is something I’m interested in improving, so if anyone is interested in guest-blogging here, or having me guest-blog for them, either comment or send me an e-mail at tundraghosts@gmail.com.

It also gave me the idea of maybe putting together an ebook of some of the poetry from this site, after I polish what I have and write some more. I realize there’s not much of a market for poetry, but getting together a little ebook of it together and charging a couple dollars for it can’t hurt and might lead to some good things, yeah?

Another book I’ve just started is “A Writer’s Badass Guide to Branding, Blogging, and Social Media. I’m not too far into it, but it has a lot of helpful tips on figuring out what you want to write about, what tone you want to use, and what you ultimately want to accomplish with blogging.

If anyone is looking for help with grammar, the classic book on writing by Strunk and White “The Elements of Style” is either free or $2.99 on Amazon, depending on which edition you buy.

 

“Connected Enough to Love the Other”

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Strength flows from spirit full enough to nurture another, alive enough to act toward good, clear enough to understand, faithful enough to wait and see, fearless enough to reveal the truth, free enough to choose to learn, courageous enough to stand alone, connected enough to love the other.

 -“Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You” by Patricia Evans

#2 Idiot-Proofing

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A.If you’re prone to severe depression, don’t own a gun.

B.If your friend is severely depressed, don’t sell her a gun or go gun-shopping with her.

C.Dear God, if you’re both deeply depressed, why are you two looking at a gun magazine together?

 

In a way, this is a continuation of #1, but this is more focused on being aware of your own vulnerabilities, and how your friend’s vulnerabilities interact with yours.

 

C. How Your Vulnerabilities Interact with Others:

 

  1. If you’re diabetic, don’t own a bakery. I didn’t do this intentionally, but at the time I was doing meth, most of the people who majorly into meth distribution in my area were pretty freaking scary. I found that going through a person that mainly used heroin was pretty good harm reduction. Problematically, this is really what got me into needles, which either would have taken longer to happen had I gone the other route, or not happened at all. Unsure, let’s just say everything has it’s trade-offs. At various points I was around people that manufactured their own and hooked me up, but I was never allowed completely unfettered access to my drug of choice, which probably would have killed me. I strayed from the point here, really, but if you have this one weird kryptonite in your life, don’t have a stockpile of it in your basement and hang out with people that collect it.
  2. If you actively have a problem in your life, don’t exclusively surround yourself with people in the midst of the same problem. Weird stuff starts to seem normal, and you develop this weird homeostasis where if one person improves, the rest of the group drags them back down, and you all go downhill, at best slowly.
  3. I “only” did this twice, but I tried to help two people get clean without outside intervention. I’ve encouraged other people, but I mean this is on the level of completely putting my own problems on hold and making this person’s lack of drug use my entire life ambition.

 

Lessons learned:

  1. I am less skillful at being an on-call nurse, substance abuse counselor, therapist, and support group than a team of trained professionals and a support group. Know your limitations.
  2. The first time resulted in the most severely screwed-up romantic relationship of my life, and the second time ended a friendship. If something seems like a bad idea, it probably is. Try to think about the end result of something is going to be before you do it.
  3.  Ultimately, I relapsed both times. (There were other factors involved both times, but being in this situation didn’t help me either.) Again, if something is probably not going to end well, puts you at risk, and additionally won’t directly benefit you in any way, ffs, don’t do it. You are many things, but not a saint or martyr.

 

How this is meant to translate into your life is that you should try not to put yourself around people that are likely to screw you up. If the deepest tie the two of you have is something negative, and especially if y’all have been basically going over the highlights of it for the last couple hours, it might be a good time to excuse yourself.

B.I feel this isn’t one of those things that need to be said, really, but if someone is vulnerable to something, especially if it’s probably going to be a disaster for them, don’t help them get it or accomplish whatever they’re trying to do.

Yes, even if you might derive some benefit from it, you little sociopath, you.

In fact, if you can encourage them not to do it, that’s pretty cool. However, it’s not your responsibility to keep them under lock-and-key, either, especially if this involves missing work and screwing up your own life.

A. (Related to the other points, but bears repeating) Don’t put yourself in situations that in all probability are going to end badly for you, even if you want to do it on some level, or have convinced yourself that you can handle it. I think we all have this weird little part of our brain that’s actively trying to kill us, and it’s worse with addicts/alcoholics.

#1 Know the Morality of Those Around You

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Oh dear. Lol. You’re so the opposite of a criminal.

-best friend

 

If you’re friends with a kleptomaniac, it’s best not to ask him to house-sit for you.

 

I am not really a true-to-the-core criminal, or look like what most would think of when it comes to as a criminal. What I mean by the first part is that I don’t enjoy hurting other people or winning perceived power games against them. I feel like most crime happens because people are in a bad spot financially or they’re into weird power games and would make good CEO’s. I’ve never even stolen during the duration of my adult life. I stole mascara once in middle school and cried for a week. That kind of stuff is too thick for my blood, so to speak.

I am technically a criminal because I violated social and legal constructs. I managed to do it without legal consequences, but the behavior still happened. How I managed to psychologically reconcile myself with what I was doing was due to my belief that a) individuals are sovereign over their bodies, b)illegal is not the same as immoral, c) justified it to myself that I wasn’t selling anything I wouldn’t use myself. At this point, I’m more receptive to the fact that certain behaviors are harmful to society as a whole and lead to chaos in the life of individual.

I’m assuming you’re something close to this yourself. That said, a lot of people in the world aren’t like this, and they don’t come with warning labels, and a lot of them hide really well. When you’re putting another person in a position of trust in your life, you need to know how they’re going to fail you or cause you harm, and if this is something that you can either guard against or bear. Maybe you might decide that this is the kind of person you don’t want in your life, and you need to figure out how to cut ties hard and fast without making a mess.

 

In the case that you decide to keep this person in your life, don’t put them in a position that tempts them into whatever their problem is, and don’t think because you two are so close that they won’t hurt you. Most of the time they won’t, but it seems to be a rule in my life that when I really need someone to not do something, this is the exact moment they decide to go rogue on me. Watch for that in your own.
There’s no real litmus test for certain behaviors, but I’ve noticed if someone stresses how much they don’t do something, or if you notice their actions not matching up with their words, it’s best to err on the side of pessimism. If you have a friend that hates when people gossip, but tells you every screwed up thing that everyone else in her life is doing, it’s probably less like you’re her best friend, and more like the rest of her friends know every screwed up thing you’ve done since you’ve met her.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=670ZGMBjrPI

 

“The 48 Laws of Power” is an insightful guide on human relationships. It’s half an hour long, but worth the time investment. It also inspired me to write something that I’m trying to come up with a better name than “What I Learned from Being a Drug Addict”, but have no clue what else to call it. Basically, I’m thinking about doing a series of articles on (roughly) these ideas, some of what are restated versions of some of the Laws of Power:
0. Why I started dealing

  1. Act in the interest of the group rather than yourself
  2. Befriend people that are wildly different than yourself
  3. Aim for people you respect rather than people you like
  4. Education isn’t that important
  5. Family, friends, loose associations
  6. Understand the morality of who you deal with
  7. Be loyal, but selective
  8. Reflective listening
  9. Not everyone needs to know everything immediately. Or at all.
  10. Short term profit, long term problem.
  11. Be aware of how you’re perceived
  12. Treat your employer as if they’re god. (In-control, all-knowing, it’s better if whatever it is comes out of your mouth rather than out of the grapevine)
  13. Realize when your behaviour might reflect badly on who you associate with.
  14. You don’t need to know everything all the time.
  15. Everyone’s stupid about something.
  16. Don’t get revenge, let them hang themselves.

 

Here’s why I’m willing to share:

  1. This was a relatively brief period of my life, which we’re about two years out from.
  2. I’m trying to treat this portion of my life as “field research”, and feel like I learned most of my knowledge about human behavior in this portion of my life. Most of my social skills/ability to deal with other people came out of this portion of my life. I hung out between the IT department/art department/my history teacher’s room in high school, and am in general not much of an optional socializer. Probably would still be hanging out with the same three people I always did if not for this happening.

#2 TL;DR version: Went through a crappy period, learned useful things, want the rest of humanity to avoid learning these things the way I did. Let me share my findings with you.

3.I feel like if I’m aware that there’s basically a guide to “hack” how I operate out there somewhere, I am significantly less likely to repeat this behavior.

4.I feel like there’s not a lot of understanding/openness in this area, and feel like it needs to be humanized a little, also I came to the realization that 21-year-old me would be completely terrified of/disdainful toward 27-year-old me, and 29-year-old me is trying to reconcile the two.

5. Trying to find meaning in something negative.

 

Here’s what I’m not going to talk about/disguise as much as humanly possible:

  1. Anything that I feel identifies/incriminates other people.
  2. How to do stuff ie: it is not my intention to write a guide on how to operate in “the underworld”.
  3. Stuff that I’m pretty sure I could get arrested for. Self-explanatory.
  4. Crap that is basically horrible and pointless.

 

#0 Why I started dealing:

(This is hopefully the most specific-to-drugs thing I’m going to write)

Let’s figure out finances for the “functional” meth addict portion of my life:

 

Rent: Shared living arrangement, approx. $300/monthly, not responsible for utilities.

In my area, you can potentially find a one-bedroom/studio for $450/month, but it won’t include any utilities, and it’s more reasonable to expect to be in a $600 apartment with water and garbage covered. Then there’s hotels, which I was doing for a while, but that’s like $45 a night at the worst kind of crack motel you can imagine, maybe like $350 for a week for a place that doesn’t have bed bugs or blood/pee/poop stains on the mattress (which is the one thing it has going for it, really). If you’re convincing you can sometimes get a good monthly rate, but that ranges into more than I could afford/would attempt to do financially.

Debt: Deferred college loans, occasional payday loans to deal with or ignore depending on what my whim was at the moment.

Food: Free, Salvation Army lunch, food stamps.

Life essentials: No clue what I was doing at this point, going to say I spent $50 on bathroom essentials/cleaning supplies/maybe some random crap, etc. in a month

Meth: Let’s say I was doing approximately a $20 bag a day, which isn’t a rockstar amount, I could make a 20 last two days if I needed to at this point, but would use more sometimes, so we’re going to conservatively estimate $600 monthly. (20×30=600)

Bus Fare: I’d either get a couple ten rides (approximately $20 a piece, I think) or a $60 dollar monthly pass. Let’s say I got a $60 pass.

Money spent to merely exist, get to work, and have a place to sleep: $1100

Legal income: College dropout, minimum wage or slightly better, let’s say my income was approximately $1000 a month. Could have picked up a second job, but at approximately $8 an hour, the time vs. money trade-off is pretty bad here.

So yeah, I was spending approximately $600/monthly on drugs, which was roughly 55% of my income, and only “manageable” because I hacked my way into super-low life expenses.

 

$1000

-1100

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-$100. So this entire month goes off without one single slight problem, if my hours at work don’t change, if I don’t get sick, if I spend money on absolutely nothing beyond the given items, if I manage to completely moderate the hell out of my drug use and use just enough to keep myself functional, if I eat nothing but grey peas and grey meatloaf once a day for an entire month, I will still need to come up with a hundred dollars. Before this point, I’d hooked friends up with bags, etc. but never really approached passing drugs on to others as a potential money-making idea.